Dear Abby

Yes, I wrote to Abby this week not with a problem but with a solution. A woman wrote to her asking if loving to wrestle with her husband (wrestle as in wrestling not foreplay) was weird for a woman. I offered the suggestion of a martial arts class, judo in particular since it is a grappling art. I noted that I had started kendo at the age of 49 and karate at 53 and now, at 56, considered them to be my principal form of workout. We had two particularly physical karate classes this week, and I have the bruises to prove it. Sore? Yes, particularly the deep bruise on my right knee. Upset about it? Heck, no! Smiling, in fact, and quite energized.